Introducing Little-Space to your partner

sleepylittlevixen:

Sharing your safe space with someone can leave you in a very scary and vulnerable situation, so here are some things that I’ve found useful when introducing littlespace to your partner.

When introducing it to your partner, explain that it is a want, not a need. Explain that it is something that makes you happy and relieves stress, but it’s not something that is required in a relationship.

Try to avoid phrases like “age regression” and “little space”. It can be intimidating and confusing to someone who knows nothing about it. Start by introducing the more ‘childlike’ side of your personality. Talk about “childish” things that make you happy. (i.e. disney movies, MLP, stuffies)

Take it in baby steps. Don’t rush things. Your partner’s comfort is important and unfortunately age regression is still seen as taboo by some, so your partner may be hesitant. Avoid degrading your little space. Don’t say things like “I know it’s weird but-” it makes it easier for your partner to register as taboo.

Remember that their initial reaction may not be positive (especially if they’re stressed and overwhelmed). But don’t lose hope! They may need time to think. If they respond negatively, temporarily drop the subject and come back to it at a later time if you feel it is appropriate.

DON’T subtly drop hints. Don’t say random things like “hey how do you feel about adult pacifiers” because they very likely will not respond positively if they don’t know that it is something that’s important to you. When you’re ready to start talking about it, be open an honest about what it means to you.

Encourage, but don’t push, your partner to do research, and explain what you want from the relationship. Don’t forget to be patient!

Good luck!