cherryderriere:

Hello there. My advice for beginners getting into the scene is to take things slow. You don’t want to just go into a spanking without careful planning. Consent is the most important thing, as well as a safety word. 

My suggestion is…find a comfortable place for the spanking to commence. I love to apply my sub’s spankings while she is laying over my lap while I am on the bed, or sitting on a couch. Her spankings normally start out over her clothing, and I work towards baring her bottom last. For you and your girlfriend, I would suggest spanking her with pants on, or over her panties. A warm up spanking is the best thing for a beginner, and use your hand. In my opinion, never go into a spanking with an implement…unless it is a role play situation, but then again, that is my opinion. 

Onto the spanking. Swift and semi hard smacks to see how she handles it. If at any point she is in pain, or wiggling with discomfort, stop right away. When I am in a session, and administering a spanking, I lean into my sub laying there, and ask her if all is well. She nods, or gives me a response, and I continue. There was a few times she yelled out our safety word, and I stopped, and let her have a cool down where I applied a rub down. When the spanking is over, and her bottom is a fine shade of red, I pull her into my arms, and we cuddle. Aftercare is an extreme importance. 

If you think you are hurting her, or pushing her too far…she has to let you know. I know the limits of my sub, but sometimes she will want it and breaks the extremities of a hard session…that is why breaks are important too. Giving her something sweet, and a drink helps as well. 

I hope I helped you, and let me know if there is anything else I can help you with.